Being a nice person

September 3, 2023

How is it nice to be nice, isn't it?

Many generations were taught to be nice persons (I mean here, even a "handy" person) who could adjust themselves, rarely saying "no" and putting your own or society's interests above their own.

I thought the point of application was mostly in Slavik countries and countries without overt democracy — and found that this is applicable in Europe as well. Surprised.

Yeah, people like a lot these "handy" persons; they are really handy — you can ever rely on them (I'm not talking about agreements), and you can push them for new limits very often. They are usually extremely sensitive about others' opinions, about fitting into the expectations applied by society, about being nice 🫢

On the other hand, you better consider many things before (or continue) to be a nice person.

The most important ones are — adjusting to others' needs and putting others' values above your own.

When something happens to you, when something is bubbling inside — there are two ways to deal with it:

• Express it, or
• Suppress it;

Expressing — that's not for nice people; they don't wanna hurt others, they wanna harm themselves.

That means they prefer to suppress the feeling, the emotions, the bubbling energy inside...

This triggered me while reading the book The Myth of Normal — he mentioned the Congress of Doctors who specialized in ALS (Lou Gehrig's disease) and they said, that with a high degree of probability, they could predict, to any person who enters a room — will s/he have an ALS in future or not.

In a few words — if a person is being nice, it is very likely that s/he will have ALS. Period.

The easy explanation is — if you do not let the energy (feelings, emotions, all these things) go out, it destroys your body. That's simple.

Hm, probably if you will express everything, always — you'll become a child again because you start getting younger 😀. And nobody wants to be with you. Or maybe???

The expression has to be in a creative way, not in a destructive one. This is the key to creation.

Decide for yourself — to create or to destroy yourself.

updated Sep 14, 2023:

You could be afraid, when you stop being nice, and become the REAL, real yourself! In the beginning you'll proably say "that's not me, wth!". And yes, this is exactly YOU.

Enjoy 🫢